suplazion
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| Joined: 04 Oct 2010 |
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| 15 Feb 2013 02:43 PM |
In my two and a half years or so on Roblox, about 2/3 of my time have been dedicated to groups/clans. I've attended many trainings, lessons, lectures, raids, patrols and such, learning about leadership, teamwork, and overall group work skills. Roblox has influenced me, and has shaped me throughout my childhood, and as a person. However, not a single group, person or training has taught me anything about confidence. Confidence is a necessary component in life, without it you truly aren't living the full extent of it. Self-esteem is about judging yourself positively, but confidence... confidence is about not judging yourself at all. It requires that you maintain and control your emotions, and not blaming others. It requires that you have no excuses for anything. I am keeping in mind that many on Roblox are no more then 13 or a few (about 10%) are above 13, so teaching them about confidence and leadership is worthless. They can't understand, and that's simply their brains, not them. I'm not saying that they're dumb, I'm saying that they're not ready yet. Being ready isn't something you can learn. It's something you must wait for and will eventually grow overtime. Few (1%) have true maturity and have fantastic leadership skills. Anyways, back to trainings. I've recently been to a training and it went rather well. However one thing was not necessarily wrong, but missing. It was the lack of understanding. During an exercise, he had admined himself to 45 speed, 1000-5000 health, fogged the place, timed it to 0 and unnamed (erasing names) of everyone. Many of the trainees had complained and insisted it was too hard. In many aspects it was. But that was not the thing that bothered me. It was that it was too hard. Lessons that are too hard do not teach anything at all. It leads to frustration which leads to anger of not being able to complete the task at hand. Teaching people about team work and group skills is utterly pointless if they cannot understand. This is why many officers in groups will often get angry at their trainees and blame them, resulting in bans and kicks when the trainee voices their frustration. Blaming only leads to more blaming which only leads to more blaming. Criticism is never progressive, only encouragement is. The trainer (name has been changed in order to prevent harassment) Nicklo492 could not understand why his trainees could not complete the exercise. His lack of empathy lead to the failure of the exercise.
Confidence- Confidence is completely freeing. It allows one to do things that those without it cannot. It frees oneself from worrying about things that aren't life threatening things, eliminates anxiety over small, petty ideas that seem large, and cools down that anger that clouds your judgement. In order to progress to confidence, we must understand where each of these feelings come from. Anger-- The most powerful emotion we have. It's the fuel that drives us to do things, but too much can lead to destruction. Confident people recognize their anger, and think about what made them angry, how to calm down, and then act logically without the anger. Anxiety-- It's the warning bell of humans. Not many can spot their anxiety and often hide it up, scared that others would see their weakness. Anxiety is interchangeable with fear as it can help us with our problems. Anxiety was extremely important to our ancestors which kept them alive from large, hairy, spiny predators that liked to eat humans. However, in modern times, we live a comfortable life, where we don’t ever need to worry about being eaten, but we still worry about small things. I used to be afraid of spiders, thinking that they would bite me. Yet, I should have been worried about the flies that the spider ate, seeing how the flies carried germs and such. Anxiety hinders us from becoming our full potential, and being confident. Guilt- Ever feel bad for those raiders that can’t seem to finish that obby at your fort? No? Okay. Still read this though. Guilt is simple. Don’t feel bad, instead do something. Just standing there and feeling bad isn’t progressive at all. Your feelings are the problem. Learning to think without your feelings will lead to better solutions then those with feelings. Your feelings cloud your judgment, and will often lead to worse consequences. “But Suplazion, do you want us to be like Spock?” Let me remind you that Spock is half human, half Vulcan and all fiction. Overall Summary: Stop Blaming Encourage, don’t criticize Think without your feelings Understanding makes everyone better
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