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| 21 Dec 2016 01:28 AM |
A friend of mine told me that her daughter had been suspended from school for three days. I replied that if that was my daughter she would get her butt set on fire for each of those days big time.
But she was clearly shocked at my answer and told me that she would never spank her child, which in my opinion is probably why she got suspended from school.
I went on to explain why I spank. First is my opinion on discipline. Discipline is not to be inconvenient, or create resentment. It is however to result in a very unpleasant situation for the offender. It is going to hurt and hurt a lot without causing permanent damage or being abusive. But it is not something that the child will ever want to experience and therefore serves as a good motivator.
Her techniques don’t work. She says she takes her daughters phone away from her while she is home, but I don’t consider that much punishment. She basically has it all day (which is really a necessity since schools distribute emergency information via text messages, etc. So she has free reign to use it most of the day anyway.
She says she grounds her daughter to her room, but there is a TV in the room, a computer, all sorts of creature comfort things that I did not have growing up. And some things, like a computer and internet are required for them to do homework, etc. So taking those away from them doesn’t work either.
The other thing with grounding is if a child is grounded for a week or two they forget in lot of ways why they were grounded and that seems to cause resentment. The cause and effect relationship blurs and that greatly lessens the effectiveness of the discipline.
Now with a dose of the hairbrush, these disappear. Yes, the child is going to have a red sore butt and will cry and bawl and kick and all the rest. That is because the discipline is unpleasant, which it should be.
They will be punished shortly after the offense in most cases. You screw up, you get spanked, you can relate the pain in your butt to what you did wrong.
And finally, once the spanking is over, the punishment is over and life goes on. Your butt will be sore for a while which is a good reminder, but the punishment does not drag on forever.
Yes, the child will feel the sting of the spanking and it may hurt a lot. But they will remember that the next time they stray. Do I like spanking? No. I don’t think any parent likes giving a spanking, but it is necessary and part of the job or raising good children. And it does work. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:28 AM |
i mean i gotta say you're pretty good at making these up
have you ever gone out of character
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:29 AM |
oh these aren't yours
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:31 AM |
LMAO WHAT IS THAT WEBSITE
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:33 AM |
| You sound like an actual parent.. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:35 AM |
| I post on the ######## ####### forum that you are referring to as well! On there I go by Terri :) This particular post is from my friend. It's a forum full of great people, we're a very accepting community, and if you agree with spanking, we would be glad for you to join us. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:37 AM |
| I must disagree, this sub forum is the pinnacle of immature kids |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:37 AM |
shoot i can't tell if you're messing with me
out of curiosity what state do you live in
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:38 AM |
| Her last sentence didn't sound exactly correct. I think she's toying with us, Z. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:39 AM |
| For the privacy of my family, I'm not comfortable disclosing this information, but it is in The United States! :) |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:40 AM |
A state has thousands of people inside the state. You disclosing what state you live in doesn't pin point who even remotely are. Sounds like something a parent would say though. But I am confident it's just a well-thought out character.
Last time I saw a person like this it was just a regular teenager with a good in-character personality that made it seem convicing |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:41 AM |
yeah I'm like 99% sure OP is screwing with us
but FTR, "Terri" has probably committed several crimes against her children depending on the state and laws
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:44 AM |
| Hearing about all these hackers that are around these days just has me scared, and I know that a lot of people on this website disagree with alot of what I have to say. I'm just trying to minimize the possibility of something happening to my family. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:46 AM |
| I am not committing CRIMES AGAINST MY CHILDREN! I use spanking to teach my family that there are consequences to their actions. When they make a mistake in the real world, they won't have mommy to bail them out. I'm able to now, but in 10 years? Nope. If they don't learn today, when will they? In prison? |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:47 AM |
"Hearing about all these hackers that are around these days just has me scared"
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:47 AM |
yeah I'm guessing Texas too lol
which would put "Terri" (OP is a fake, Terri is real) in dangerous waters, legally speaking
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:49 AM |
its a sin
dare - keepin it real |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:50 AM |
Texas is undoubtedly a very strict christian place to live with their life style from what I hear
I live in California so I wouldn't know, but Ive just heard stories
(Btw, "terri", I can disclose what state I live in because no one is going to find out exactly where I live in California. unless of course I blatantly tell them, they wont find out. your excuse to say it limits my chances of being found is silly isn't logical |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:50 AM |
ftr last I checked bare bottom spanking (maybe any spanking) is either illegal or can have a case made against it when the person being spanked is an non-consenting 17 year old
(17 is of age in texas)
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:50 AM |
| of being found is silly and isn't logical)* |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:50 AM |
tbh only parts of Texas are still like that - but yeah, that's where you'll find the southern baptist types
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:55 AM |
| Bare bottom spanking is not illegal where I live. Spanking is widely accepted where I live, and almost all of my friends believe in spankings, just like me. Our pastor preaches spanking, and our local politicians support spanking. Spanking is part of our society. This crazy liberal talk would be shunned to oblivion. |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:58 AM |
| LOL "my pastor praches spanking" IM DONE AHAHA |
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| 21 Dec 2016 01:58 AM |
child abusing teen mom
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