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| 11 Oct 2016 03:55 PM |
So I've always been shy, like every since I was a little dude (I'm 15) and I've always looked up to my second-blood brother (different dads) who is a realtor and 29.
So I don't know if a lot of you know but my mom passed away in the past August and now I'm living with him, his wife and his baby. He was never someone who worked, had initiative or was really reasonable.
My dad paid for a lot of his stuff in high school; basketball shoes, his first car, etc. But now that I'm living with him and he's a realtor and such he wants me to be the best I can be. So he's having me write resumés for grocery stores and cafe's but it's not something I feel I'm ready for considering he gave me a lecture about if I mess up it'll look bad on him. He also told me to go apply by myself and I honestly have no idea what I'm doing when applying or whatever..
I really don't want to disappoint him but I don't want to be working in Grade ten when I have stuff interfering with it, like soccer, lacrosse and golf.
What should I do?
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| 11 Oct 2016 03:56 PM |
talk to him about it if you present some valid points im sure he'll understand
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| 11 Oct 2016 03:57 PM |
| Explain to him that its not something you want to pursue right now. |
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| 11 Oct 2016 03:58 PM |
Tell him that you want to focus on studying until you graduate.
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| 11 Oct 2016 03:58 PM |
But him and his wife don't think they should pay for my meals at school and clothes.
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| 11 Oct 2016 03:59 PM |
If you're only 15 and they think that uhhh...
well....
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:01 PM |
The best I can say, then, is that you should find a part-time job over the weekends or something that doesn't interfere with your other stuff too much.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:01 PM |
you should be able to talk it out with him
you should also speak with his wife if you and her are on good terms so she could convince him to back off a little |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:02 PM |
But Game, I don't know what to do when handing in my resume and he won't be there and knowing myself I will screw it up.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:02 PM |
But yeah man, that's really weird if you're only 15.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:03 PM |
Xor she wants me to do it more than he does. She was raised on a farm and worked all summer and all school year and still dealt with her sports.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:04 PM |
Don't worry about handing in your resume. There are loads of people who have struggled to get a job before some time in their life. Finding a job can be a trial-and-error process.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:05 PM |
Just keep trying and eventually you'll find a job. It'll be easier once you've had a few interview experiences.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:05 PM |
Game he is referring me to the assistant manager. Thats where the context of if I mess up it'll make him look bad.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:06 PM |
If you just be yourself and what not whenever you go to interview or whatever, should be fine.
just don't forget to breath and think :^)
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:08 PM |
jesus
like my mom wants me to work if i want a car and to pay back some money i owe my stepfather but wow
hm they really need to back off if you're only 15 that's a little ridiculous honestly i'd talk to a school counselor and see if they can get the both of them to back off because it would be really hard to work while playing multiple sports |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:10 PM |
It wasn't very considerate of him to put so much pressure on you, really. I'm not really sure what to say, but it might help if you did a bit of research on this kind of stuff online so that you have a better idea of how to handle the situation.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:14 PM |
Yeah, ROBLOX forums might not be the BEST place to get advice.
lol.
but some can be helpful i guess.
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:22 PM |
I'm going to give you the best advice you can possibly get, don't listen to anyone on this forum except for my words because I'm a professional and I started working at age 11, trust me I know what I'm doing.
First off, at age 15 someone shouldn't have a huge resume or a lot of experience working... If you've done a lot of charity or leadership programs and events where you did critical thinking, add that. I would also suggest on resumes you look up different sites for different types of work as some places look for things in resumes that others do not.
Second off, you're 15. You go to school, I will tell you right now your best friend is your english, math, science, or history teacher. They're professionals and have been teaching for years (unless they're new, but still), if you ask for help on a resume they will help you. I know a lot of people are scared to ask for help from their teacher and become their friend, but trust me most teachers (like 98%) care about their students and will do anything to help them academically and financially outside of the classroom.
Third off, if you don't believe you should be working at age 15 because you feel you are not ready heres my words of advice: I felt ready at an extremely early age and was eager to start work at 11 and begged my parents, I can tell you right now DON'T do what I did unless you feel comfortable starting a job. I cannot stress enough you should start when you feel like you're ready to take on more responsibility.
Fourth off, talking to your brother with the valid points of what your father gave to him (especially since he's not even his "real" son and how he treated him as such) and speaking of how you feel and that most people your age need to focus on college so you don't obtain a poor job and leading life to the fullest is your path.
Fifth off, your brother and his wife are not you. You are the best person to make your choices in what you feel comfortable with, there is a fine difference between lazy and efficient and if you believe you are not prepared nor ready to enter the work-force and balance it with school: DON'T.
Sixth off, in regards to his wife I will state that there is multiple scientific factual evidence that supports women having a better ability to handle stress in multi-tasking situations where you have multiple responsibilities and require the ability to manage time and efficiency to its fullest or you go nuts. The fact that she believes someone of the opposite gender can achieve the same ability is that of itself shocking, especially when there is proof that women do have better multi-tasking abilities while men have better focused minds in one aspect area at a time.
Seventh off, you aren't going to disappoint anyone and you shouldn't feel that you are entitled to anyone else's opinion. Telling people your problems and letting them manage around you is the best course of action, if you require someone to understand that you cannot handle a job, school, and athletics because you don't feel prepared and stressed then they will have to deal with it.
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Your brother is your brother, he will get off his high-horse and majestic perfect brother syndrome of being a parent and forcing someone to become the best of their ability because that is impossible. He expects too much from you, and you must inform him of that and let him understand your problems. You've got a nephew, whose a baby, people at this stage in life have a very weird way of thinking ahead into the future and tend to be more controlling in the environment... I suggest you keep in mind a phycologist would agree with every statement I've just made. |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:29 PM |
that's some crazy good advice right there man, good job
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:32 PM |
| find a balance its probably hard on him having to take care of his brother when he's probably got a family of his own |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:34 PM |
| yeah listen to imperialoutcast he was a millionaire at 10 years old |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:37 PM |
@ Games
You shouldn't force your younger kid-brother to give up his childhood as a 15 year old teenager for work and "grow-up" faster because his mom is gone and no one can take care of his financials (which I can say right now is BS honestly the older brother I can already tell has a good paycheck and his wife is either a gold-digger or wants extra spending change in her pocket for her precious little baby boy).
And to further state that, you shouldn't even consider it since the fact that your step-father (YOUR BROTHERS REAL FATHER) supported you financially in highschool and paid for a lot of your stuff so you could be happy and not have to get a job and even get a car.
That's called manipulation, greed, and furthermore I would expect my step-son to treat my son the same way I treated him as a teenager growing up. So you can add disgraceful and disowning to the list. |
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| 11 Oct 2016 04:41 PM |
| i'm glad my parents always bugged me when i was younger about a job because now i can actually have freedom to do stuff with my own damn money |
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