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| 11 Aug 2016 04:00 PM |
so I've had a solid group of friends for a few years but other than that im pretty isolated i've had a few bad things happen that have messed me up and basically destroyed my self confidence, abuse etc do you guys have any tips for me on how to meet new people? im pretty cool around people I know but other than that im just super shy figured it would be a good time to ask with school starting up pretty soon
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:02 PM |
| start conversations by asking the other party about themselves. people love talking about themselves. |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:02 PM |
expand horizons and try new things thats how i am today, still trying new things back then i was so isolated doing the basic stuff, but not anymore try to expand your safe territory slowly and slowly |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:03 PM |
"start conversations by asking the other party about themselves. people love talking about themselves."
Ok, i just feel awkward when i do that for some reason i know it isnt i just feel weird about it
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:03 PM |
@derpy
will keep that in mind im trying to do that but idk its just especially hard for me
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:04 PM |
most people on ot are in a simillar situation. just talk to everybody and eventually you'll find more friends. it worked for me
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Kenneth10
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:04 PM |
| be chill, talk to people who you think are on the same social level as you. |
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jacemcc
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:04 PM |
| It really isn't to hard to find more friends. Perhaps ask the friends you have if they know anyone else you could become friends with. |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:04 PM |
| Idk how to help you since my social anxiety is worse than yours. ;-; |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:05 PM |
| You've gotta try to change your perspective on stressful things (be optimistic), learn to control your breathing, and do things to make you as confident as possible (ex. Joining clubs, making more friends, etc.) |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:05 PM |
i'd like to try to talk to everybody but i get anxious/scared when i do it so a lot of the time it is really awkward unless its with people i am already friends with
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:05 PM |
"It really isn't to hard to find more friends."
it is for me and i've met my friends friends i just feel like i always screw up talking to them
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:07 PM |
Just be like me, extremely negative and pessimistic.
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:07 PM |
@somewhat
i play sports at my school and thats how i've met my group of friends but other than them i just feel like i can't be myself somehow
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:07 PM |
you dont have to meet new people
you must become protective of your friends they must be your only form of support
and you must make sure that they never leave you |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:08 PM |
first things first, talk to someone.
Then after it works out, you can either try to resume the happiness you once had,
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try starting down from the bottom of the ladder with new people. You might be able to start yourself a new personality if that's what you want if the peeps are cool with ya |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:09 PM |
| If you try the first option, you could also try to enrich it if it wasn't golden enough before you starting feeling isolated. |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:09 PM |
@joe
what about after highschool etc when we have all gone our separate ways than ill just be alone
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:09 PM |
dont go on here for anxiety mate you'll get more memes than papa frank spits out everyday
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:10 PM |
I relate to this a lot I guess just try to sit near people in your classes that seem nice Try to make conversation with them, like hey can I have a pencil or something. It's hard but it works. It's kinda going to be really bad for me because I'm going back to a school district that I used to go to back in elementary, and I just left a charter school where everyone was new so it was pretty easy to make a lot of friends. I guess you could say I was fairly popular with people, but I've always just been really shy. It also sucks because besides having to remeet people I haven't seen in four years, it's also my first year of highschool. :/ Just try your hardest I guess |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:10 PM |
"Keep fighting your doubts"
Im trying to just not being very successful
@spicy
I dont want to become a new person though is the thing, pretending to be someone im not makes it even more awkward. but i will work on it a bit i guess
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:11 PM |
"what about after highschool etc when we have all gone our separate ways than ill just be alone "
be that one friendly guy who hangs around the town bar
when you meet someone there you MUST NEVER LET THEM GO |
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| 11 Aug 2016 04:11 PM |
| It is great that you have a solid group of friends. You are very fortunate! |
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