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| 13 Feb 2016 12:27 AM |
So basically, all three of us were friends. Friend 1 was getting closer to me, and Friend 2 was jealous of that. Friend 2 basically forbid Friend 1 from ever talking to me out of jealousy, and we haven't talked for about a week (I only learned about this today). Because of the way Friend 2 is acting and because I'm tired of his controlling behavior (I've been liking this friend less and less lately), I basically took the steps to remove Friend 2 from my life.
So now we're in this horrible situation where Friend 1 feels torn and hates this situation but Friend 2 will throw a hissy fit of jealousy if Friend 1 so much as talks with me. And I feel empty on my side. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. Feels awful.
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Reliquiae
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:27 AM |
| I have no friends, so feel lucky FloralTigress |
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:28 AM |
Hey man try dealing with 20 friends and best friends. You end up losing 17 of them , and then the remainder either dont talk to you or fight over you.
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zeldu22
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:28 AM |
just tell friend 1 to move onto another site or something,
and don't tell friend 2. |
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:30 AM |
"just tell friend 1 to move onto another site or something,"
Hm? We all talk through Skype/Discord/Steam/etc.. Friend 1 feels like they literally can't talk to me because Friend 2 forbid them.
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:40 AM |
"Friend 1 was getting closer to me, and Friend 2 was jealous of that. "
We talking about girls?
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:40 AM |
| At least you had a friend. That is what counts. |
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DrForce
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:40 AM |
"Because of the way Friend 2 is acting and because I'm tired of his controlling behavior" what do you mean by controlling behavior like he tries to control you into doing things he wants or
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:44 AM |
"We talking about girls?"
Sure, think of it however you'd like.
"what do you mean by controlling behavior like he tries to control you into doing things he wants or"
Well, specifically I'm referring to what just happened, but for weeks now Friend 2 has been showing this behavior over Friend 1, probably because of me.
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:46 AM |
Friend #2 sounds like the problem in this case.
Also, which of these friends did you have an issue with a few weeks ago where he/she wouldn't talk to you?
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:50 AM |
"Also, which of these friends did you have an issue with a few weeks ago where he/she wouldn't talk to you?"
Friend 1 won't talk to me because Friend 2 forbid them. I'm not sure when Friend 2 told 1 that, but the last me and 1 had a chat was last Saturday.
I talked to Friend 1 today when they were online today, and they explained the situation to me. Friend 1 seemed... sad, like they hated it, like they didn't actually want to lose me. It was all so sudden for me too. We're still in contact, but I'm not sure when they're going to approach me again, if ever anytime soon.
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:54 AM |
I honestly don't know what's going on between 1 and 2 right now, or why 1 feels like they need to listen and obey to 2. Maybe it because 1 talking to me makes 2 "feel bad," and 1 doesn't want to hurt them emotionally. Or something like that. It's horrible that 2 is putting 1 in this kind of situation, I fear that 1 will be forced to choose sometime soon...
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:57 AM |
| maybe you are the third wheel |
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:58 AM |
| Screw friend 2, friend 1 sounds like an actual friend. |
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| 13 Feb 2016 12:58 AM |
replace friend 2's water with cyanide
My cat's breath smells odd http://www.roblox.com/Sword-Art-Online-II-First-Theme-item?id=166838247 http://www.roblox.com/ALLAHU-AKBAR-2-item?id=315340769 |
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:00 AM |
try to get friend #1 to get rid of friend #2, tell'em about how friend #2 is hurting you so much with the horrible things he's doing
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:02 AM |
"maybe you are the third wheel"
That's what I fear too, but honestly, with the way how Friend 1 treats me and such, I don't think there's any third wheel in this situation. Friend 1 values all their friends, and they're a really nice person.
"Screw friend 2, friend 1 sounds like an actual friend."
What am I to do if Friend 2 has their jealous grip on Friend 1? There's nothing I can do, it feels horrible to watch this happen.
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:04 AM |
If friend 1 is attempting to mend the situation then they know it's not your fault, you can still salvage the friendship and bring it back to normal.
I've done it before. |
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:06 AM |
I was in a similar position last month.
In my case I was talking to Person1 about some of Person2's info, so after the chat was done I went to Person2 the next day and mention what went on. Person2 didn't like what happened at all and went to Person1 and some words were exchanged. Person2 told me Person1 was bad and didn't want him around anymore. So I later confessed* to Person2 that what Person1 appeared to say was what I said. It turned out Person2 didn't go all out on Person1, and in return Person2 got TONS of apologies placing the blame on me (which was correct). I was told by Person2 to respect his privacy, and of course I would comply to do so because I don't want to lose him. Now when I return to Person1 to try sort things out he doesn't want me anymore and won't even let me try to establish his connection back to Person2. I anyways tell Person2 to try give him another chance and it goes well for them. However I didn't get to talk to Person1 normally until today, but it's all fine now.
*I feel VERY sick knowing I wronged someone, I hate doing wrong to others and I can't handle it emotionally. I am very sensitive.
If I was to relate this case to your issue you would be placed as Person1, and I would be placed as "Friend 2" if I were to relate to your case. You may not be able to see the connection but I am trying to help in ways that I can.
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:09 AM |
I had a similar situation irl with my girlfriend and some other people... just follow you're heart!
Screw friend number 2.
Idk about friend 1. |
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:09 AM |
Ugh, I just feel emotionally damaged from this. Hopefully I can get a hold of Friend 1 tomorrow, but I doubt that.
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:12 AM |
@Ugh, I just feel emotionally damaged from this. Hopefully I can get a hold of Friend 1 tomorrow, but I doubt that.
I know how that feels, I remember crying myself to sleep because of what I did.
Do you have that tense feeling in your gut too?
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:12 AM |
Damn, that must suck. I hate it when my friends argue with eachother and I'm forced to pick a side, it's hell.
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:15 AM |
"Do you have that tense feeling in your gut too?"
It's more in my chest, this like... I don't know how to describe it, emptiness?
I know I'll be able to talk with Friend 1 again, and the last thing they told me in today's conversation was that we'll stay in touch, but with Friend 2 breathing down their back... ugh...
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| 13 Feb 2016 01:15 AM |
I've dealt with a problem similiar to this.
You have to convince friend 1 of what friend 2 is actually doing to YOU emotionally. You have to let them know how much the horrible stuff friend 2 is doing to you.
I had a friend who was getting extremely close to me, and her other friend had a crush on her but wanted her all to himself and tried to convince her that I was the bad guy there.
You have to make friend 1 know the truth, at all costs.
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