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| 10 Oct 2015 08:45 PM |
Why does family insist upon holding side conversations while I am watching new episodes of my show?
They could always go upstairs and talk at a moderate volume, enabling me to watch. It's a total mood-killer when you're all hyped up to see a new episode, and your family members just decide that they're going to suddenly start talking in the middle of it.
Like, HELLO. If you were watching television, I'd be respecting your wishes and refraining from talking until commercials go on, and probably joining you to watch it, too, because I love TV and I think it's fun to be around you when you're being respectful of my wishes. But when it's me, it seems as though everyone thinks it's ok to disregard my personal agenda completely?
I feel as though asking for one. hour. of living room time where nobody's making any noise unless it's during commercials isn't a lot. Is this unreasonable with a family of six? I mean, the show goes on at 9:00, so it's not as though my parents have an excuse for why my immature 7 year-old brother is still awake and throwing a rampage. Neither is it an excuse that my mother herself is throwing a rampage in response to my 7 year-old brother, but I suppose that's where I get my temper from, which I've been trying to get rid of (I seriously don't want to take after her, it's too much to imagine myself as her, it bothers me).
I also don't understand why they felt as though putting my almost-10 year-old brother, who loves to watch the show with me, to bed is a bright idea when he knows the show's on and has been wanting to see it all week. Is this unreasonable, too? Because in my mind a 7 year-old going to bed at the same time as a 10 year-old is raising some serious red flags, and taking away some valuable brother-sister bonding time is, too. Even my sister is getting into the show, and she hated it before I started to watch it.
I can't watch TV in my room because I don't have a television. I could always go downstairs, but my basement's scary at night (yeah, I'll admit it, I'm scared of my basement at night), and there are Legos all over the floor...(Even scarier... *shudders*).
I wound up realizing that my parents weren't going to be quiet tonight after the incident with my brother, so I turned off the TV, put the dog away (she's a puppy so she can't be left alone, so I put her into her cage and gave her a treat like any responsible 14 year-old would do), and headed upstairs to take a shower.
I just don't like how I have to bend my wishes to match theirs. It's a major disappointment not seeing my show right now. I rarely get excited, and this is why...
Anyone else experience this?
I know I'll be unable to talk to my parents about this. I'll probably get the whole "you're taking up mommy and daddy time!!111' excuse... |
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| 10 Oct 2015 08:50 PM |
| I think I'm too analytical. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 08:51 PM |
| Thats a long rant on ur family. Chill. |
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anaka9
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| 10 Oct 2015 08:53 PM |
I was playing Skyrim Trying to listen to Ulfric's orders Dad yelling on the phone Ask him to stop talking so loud and then he tells me "Go play ROBLOX." |
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koopaNGC
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| 10 Oct 2015 08:53 PM |
| Nah, I'm right there with you Swords. I sometimes want to watch my show in peace, but I can't get that. My parents tell me to keep quiet when their shows are on, but obviously that doesn't work the other way around for me. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 08:55 PM |
| communicate with your family |
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d4rk652
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:00 PM |
Ican't relate,my parents usually talk upstairs,and if it's in the livingroom,I usually son't watch anything or go down there,since me and my sister typically stay down there for a long time. I never minded talking while watching something,it rare,y even happens anyway. I don't know,maybe there's something wrong with me. |
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buildboy9
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:01 PM |
I don't watch TV anymore
so i cant relate
LOIS WHERE ARE MY FLAPJACKS |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:03 PM |
Really, is this even a 'problem' you westerners experience...
Would you like fries with that? |
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Slydexia
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:07 PM |
my parents do this too not only when im trying to watch tv, but when i'm on the phone, when i'm eating, when i'm trying to talk, or sometimes either one of them will call my name then start talking about something random like holy crap learn to prioritize when you talk |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:11 PM |
"Thats a long rant on ur family. Chill."
I have a lot of pent-up anger and frustration harbored toward them, and no way to express myself since I don't really have friends who I can dump all of my problems on, so I do the next best thing.
"I was playing Skyrim Trying to listen to Ulfric's orders Dad yelling on the phone Ask him to stop talking so loud and then he tells me "Go play ROBLOX.""
Wow, that's kind of funny, but kind of annoying at the same time. He could've just gone outside.
"Nah, I'm right there with you Swords. I sometimes want to watch my show in peace, but I can't get that. My parents tell me to keep quiet when their shows are on, but obviously that doesn't work the other way around for me."
Yeah, it bothers me. Everyone always says that respect is a two-way street, and it really is. It's hard to respect people who don't respect me...
"communicate with your family"
If I did that I'd probably get yelled at. My mother's already pretty mad, better not make it worse...
"Ican't relate,my parents usually talk upstairs,and if it's in the livingroom,I usually son't watch anything or go down there,since me and my sister typically stay down there for a long time. I never minded talking while watching something,it rare,y even happens anyway. I don't know,maybe there's something wrong with me."
Does your family talk loudly? That's the issue here. My parents are very loud, and rather than sitting right next to one another whilst talking, my mother will take one end of the couch, and my father the other, so they will be yelling across the room to each other.
"I don't watch TV anymore
so i cant relate"
There are some really great cop shows airing. You're missing out.
"Really, is this even a 'problem' you westerners experience..."
Yes. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:12 PM |
"my parents do this too not only when im trying to watch tv, but when i'm on the phone, when i'm eating, when i'm trying to talk, or sometimes either one of them will call my name then start talking about something random like holy crap learn to prioritize when you talk"
When I'm doing homework, I usually have to move upstairs to my bedroom because it's so loud, and then I can still here them with the door closed. I don't know whether it's just that they picked the least soundproof house or what, but it's quite annoying. When I grow up my house will be soundproof from room-to-room/10. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:13 PM |
"Yay! SOSsy is back!"
Yes, the person who doesn't understand the world is here to share their really-not-so-bad problems with everyone else! Whoohoo! |
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Slydexia
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:13 PM |
| why does it seem like adults have no respect for anyone younger than them |
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Ordinari
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:13 PM |
why do my parents feel the need to speak to me when i'm wearing headphones
#code if trashPost=true then print("rip op") |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:16 PM |
"why does it seem like adults have no respect for anyone younger than them"
I'm not sure. I guess it's just this mindset parents have.
I'm kind of glad I'm in my current school right now just because I have someone to relate to. Not on this kind of trivial level, no, but more in the sense that when I speak, people will understand me. When I talk to my mom about something that's simple and easy to understand for me, it's gotten to the point where she has gotten so fed up with me and my excitement/love of learning that she can no longer listen. She tells me I make her brain hurt, and I wonder whether that's the truth or she just isn't bothering to listen... |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:17 PM |
"why do my parents feel the need to speak to me when i'm wearing headphones"
People doing that in general is annoying.
If you're in the 21st century and bother people with banalities while they're listening to music in an obvious effort to ignore the outside world, you're an ill-mannered individual indeed. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:28 PM |
usally when i get just 1 N (yes, im not in middle school or high school) my mom tells me to erase that single N. i mean why? its not that bad is it? yes, it is that bad. sometimes she hits me. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:30 PM |
"usally when i get just 1 N (yes, im not in middle school or high school) my mom tells me to erase that single N. i mean why? its not that bad is it? yes, it is that bad. sometimes she hits me."
What do you mean? |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:33 PM |
"I just don't like how I have to bend my wishes to match theirs."
You'll soon learn you have to.
It's not about excuses, it's prioritizing responsibilities.
The "Not now, kiddo" thing is there for a reason, but like anything and everything, it can be abused.
Keep a rule of cautious judgement, m'dear.
"You will know the light and pray for darkness." - [The Conscience of OT.] |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:40 PM |
"You'll soon learn you have to. It's not about excuses, it's prioritizing responsibilities. The "Not now, kiddo" thing is there for a reason, but like anything and everything, it can be abused. Keep a rule of cautious judgement, m'dear."
I think I'm a very compliant person, though. I'm highly biased in saying this, but when you think about all the crap I am willing to put up with in a week (IE: Walking up a hill home carrying a 40-pound bookbag 4 days a week so my parents can drop my siblings off to their soccer events, being the only person in the family to attend my cousin's Confirmation ceremony even though I'm agnostic because I actually care about my cousin more than soccer games, being ignored or completely told off when trying to talk about how excited I am about the newest scientific advancements, doing 20 hours of HW a week, etc.), I think my parents should be willing to give me an hour.
I mean, I know I'm not perfect, and give them more crap to put up with than they deserve, but I do TRY to be kind and respectful to them, and I know that they're not even the slightest bit guilty about the fact that they completely interrupted time that I could've spent enjoying myself. |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:47 PM |
...dear Lord, I thank thee for bringing easy blessing unto mine life, Amen.
Er, ahem.
All that aside, I have it easy, but I can see where you're coming from.
I'm 17, on the precipice of 18.
18 is usually when people believe they are now "mature adults".
WRONG!
It is simply the point where you have to be more responsible about what you do, and what you take care of. You can't get out of trouble as easily, nor can you shirk errands and such.
Enough about me.
You seem to have a lot of stress over a mom who wants happiness.
Like I always tell my grandma, happiness cannot be bought or forced, only rewarded.
You have emotions, but entitlement is not a factor, but a choice.
She has emotions that affect her judgement, as anyone does, and you should not be so hard on her.
As I was saying earlier, just because you gain an age and more responsibilities doesn't mean you're done maturing.
Heck, I'm barely mature enough to walk into a store and buy things without seeming like a madman!
So, keep calm, and remember there's a silver lining.
Eventually.
"You will know the light and pray for darkness." - [The Conscience of OT.] |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:49 PM |
On a side note, I don't think I'm capable of being on topic in the first place.
What was I even talking about, again?
"You will know the light and pray for darkness." - [The Conscience of OT.] |
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| 10 Oct 2015 09:56 PM |
"...dear Lord, I thank thee for bringing easy blessing unto mine life, Amen. Er, ahem. All that aside, I have it easy, but I can see where you're coming from. I'm 17, on the precipice of 18. 18 is usually when people believe they are now "mature adults". WRONG! It is simply the point where you have to be more responsible about what you do, and what you take care of. You can't get out of trouble as easily, nor can you shirk errands and such. Enough about me. You seem to have a lot of stress over a mom who wants happiness. Like I always tell my grandma, happiness cannot be bought or forced, only rewarded. You have emotions, but entitlement is not a factor, but a choice. She has emotions that affect her judgement, as anyone does, and you should not be so hard on her. As I was saying earlier, just because you gain an age and more responsibilities doesn't mean you're done maturing. Heck, I'm barely mature enough to walk into a store and buy things without seeming like a madman! So, keep calm, and remember there's a silver lining. Eventually."
I don't think I'm more mature than my parents. I just feel as though my opinion should have a small bit of more weight, I shouldn't be ignored so much, and I should be respected to a certain extent. I suppose that sounds as though I feel as though I'm more mature, but it's different IMO...
I guess I am being a bit harsh... |
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