mecatab
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:44 AM |
Hey C&G.
So basically I need help. What do I do? I've known this girl for 4 years, and we talked but I didn't develop feelings for her until about.. Two years ago. At the time she was dating someone else, but I was chill and they broke up after a two year relationship.(I met her when she first started to date him, so 4 years ago) Obviously she was distraught but I quickly rushed to her side because I cared her about a friend and eventually got her better. We started to date and it was good for about a month, then she broke up with me. That hurt a lot but that's just the beginning.
We went our separate ways and then her best friend asked me to come back because she was very depressed and I was the only person that act silly helped her become happy. I got her happy again, I still had feelings for her but just pushed them down because I'm stupid. She dated other people and broke up with them. We were a on and off thing until about 5 months ago.
We tried it one more time, and it was perfect. When I tell you I loved her.. I mean it guys. She was perfect, she was pretty, sweet, funny and just my dork. I made her happy and she kept me happy even at my lowest. Everything was fine until I found out she was talking to other guys and I was pissed. I told her to screw herself, and a whole lot of things that I regretted. Not even four hours later I sent her a snap chat telling her to go screw herself and she simply sent one back of her voice saying how sorry she was, her voice was cracking and I could hear her sobbing when she tried to talk. It was just a mess.
I broke, all my anger just went away. She was broken and I caused it. We got on the phone and stayed on for about 4 hours. I cried a little and she cried a lot but at the end we were both smiling and happy.
The rest of the month was good but she just seemed.. Off. Disconnected but still loving, just off at times. Hard to describe guys, but whatever. I decided to bring it up today and she didn't want to talk about it and I basically told her that I wouldn't get mad. She said simply that she doesn't want to hurt me anymore.
That brings me to something to the period where we were on and off together. After all those "relationships" I began to felt used and hurt because she would only get back together with me when she felt sad or got through a break up with someone. I basically told her off, how she was using me only to smother her he in cute crap, kisses, cuddling, ect. I went off even more and we didn't get back together for 4 months. Then it was on and off for a couple more months until we started dating for the last time. I loved her so much, this is why I kept going back to her.
When I say I have the self esteem of a dead animal, I'm over exaggerating. That's way to high for me. Anyways, I don't think good of myself at all, ect. The usual "I hate myself and want to an hero" deal. That still holds true for me but she herself held me together. I loved her a lot man. She made me happy.
Anyways by saying she didn't want to hurt me anymore she meant that she didn't want to keep me feeling used and I said basically. "What do you mean" and she said. "I still love Tom. He was my first love.. You mean a lot to me but I love him, I can't change what I feel." (Tom is the guy she was with for two years) And I felt like I just got shot. 5 months.. Hell about two years of my life just went down the drain. "Does he still love you?" I asked and she said he did. I just said for her to go be with him if they really loved each other, so we got on the phone and she was kinda crying. She knew I was in a lot of pain. (Lots of crap going on in my life, Grandma diagnosed with terminal cancer, family hates each other..) I told her it was okay and go be with him. She said she was sorry and cried hard, I never heard her cry this hard.
Two years of my life gone. I can't an hero.. I really want to C&G but I can't, I can't hurt her anymore. I love her, even though she just basically destroyed all my emotions at once. The reason why this would hurt her a lot is because before got with Tom she was with a guy that was really dependent of her to keep him happy, he hated himself. She said I reminded her of him and after they broke up. He did an hero because of it, and I promised her a year ago that I wouldn't do that to her. I keep my promises C&G, I don't want to hurt her anymore that I already have and am. I'm writing this in tears, I seriously don't know what the hell to do with myself. Please, offer me some advice C&G. I know this is stupid but you are the only people I can come to right now. If you read all this.. Thank you so much for reading a chunk of my life. I can't live with myself anymore. |
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mecatab
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:49 AM |
think about it:
you still love her, right then go get it
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boxcutta
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:49 AM |
Your letting a birth-bag control you?
I'll fix you in less than a few seconds.
< Screw single relationships, humans were meant to spread other more than one mate.
< Love with a mate is temporary at most younger ages.
< if she actually "LOVED" you she wouldn't be messing with other guys
< Don't feel bad about above, because she'd cheat on any other person.
Your better than her obviously, you don't need her. Women are temporary. Money is forever.
MOB
Wu-tang forever. |
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:50 AM |
| Eventually, time will cure your pain |
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mecatab
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:51 AM |
| I'm just... I'm so sorry C&G |
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Vordakian
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boxcutta
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:52 AM |
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJaPmKnSdu4
^ seriously dude girls are about as permanent as mosquito bites
Wu-tang forever. |
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:53 AM |
dont go here for advice x2
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RyanRevan
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:55 AM |
girls are like that lol
they dont know who they love
sounds like you were in the ''friends with benefits'' zone and tried to climb out
she still thinks of u as a booty call
so
u have two options
declare her a thottie and ignore
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get in a srs relationship. no ''netflix and chill''. srs relationship. move in. live together. not just secks. |
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boxcutta
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| 11 Aug 2015 01:56 AM |
dont take anyones advice likely they've been in like 3 relationships in their life.
keep her as a side thot and move on g, love is for weak ngas
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RyanRevan
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| 11 Aug 2015 02:00 AM |
box y u salty
someone got whipd |
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pelorus
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| 11 Aug 2015 02:03 AM |
Laughing right now.
Mostly at the "talks to boys" part. Women don't hold the answers to all the math multiple choice questions.
But in all seriousness you should really apologize. Then again I didn't read the last few paragraphs but apologizing is better than living with regret.
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boxcutta
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| 11 Aug 2015 02:06 AM |
pelo ill kill you
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RyanRevan
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| 11 Aug 2015 02:06 AM |
i have a sister and she's said
''girls love all their boyfriends even after they break up. we find it hard to... let go of all that emotion n sht. which is why girls cheat with exes, not random dudes, while guys usually go for whatever they can find''
seriously tho, you are probobally taking what she said out of proportion.
ask her if she wants u or tom and there you'll have her answer
if u then do what i said before, get in a srs relationship.
if tom then declare her a #thot then move on |
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