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| 11 Dec 2014 10:06 PM |
i have a friend named connor, and he and i have been friends since last year
he has a good sense of humor that i can bounce off of (though it is a little immature and he is racist/sexist)and were kinda close, since weve both lost close family members and i bring him lunch every day since he never has it
but recently hes been really rude and annoying. like, he does things to intentionally irritate and piss me off, and not in the joking annoying way but more in the actually incredibly annoying way, and he seems to do it because he finds entertainment in it. ive also found out that hes really violent (with the slightest instigation he attacks people if he can excuse it) and used to abuse animals and even kill smaller animals (im not sure if he still does this, but he has a kitten now and needless to say im worried).
in general hes a creep, hes a senior and at the beginning of the year he was dating an 8th grader, and he only ever seems to be attracted to younger girls. he has REALLY obsessive behavior, when he likes someone he never leaves them alone, when they break up with him he gets extremely suicial, and last year when he had a crush on this girl (who is now my girlfriend) he would write her love notes every day, even though she didnt find him attractive in the least and found this stuff really creepy since hed dated both of her sisters in the past.
so, question time, should i disconnect from him? i really want to, but if i do itll be hard and noticeable, and i dont want to provoke any attitude from him as much dislike as i currently have for him |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:07 PM |
stop posting these long threads i dont like reading them ill reply with an actual quality post after i read it |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:08 PM |
| cut him off he sounds like a freak |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:09 PM |
confront him about it if you can do so safely
if not then cut him off |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:09 PM |
"cut him off he sounds like a freak"
i probably should
i kinda want to see if i can push him into therapy tho cause that worked on another scary friend and were tite now |
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zacmaq
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:10 PM |
Can you talk to the guy about it?
It won't do anything about his attitude, he has an attention problem obviously |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:11 PM |
whats up with you having all these messed up friends damn
its like you attract psychopaths |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:11 PM |
Rene
i can probably do it safely, but boy do i hate confrontation
usually when i have to be with someone i mentally block out all their bad qualities too, which makes it harder to call them out for being bad people |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:12 PM |
slayer
*shrug* WELCOME TO ART SCHOOL! |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:12 PM |
moonlight the psychopath magnet i bet you'd be a good cop because all the serial killers come to you |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:12 PM |
tl:dr op has a friend that is a creep
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:14 PM |
It's a trying time in a friendship.
Ask him if anything is wrong, and if he gets angry at you, let him cool down, change the subject.
The irritating part I don't know.. If he keeps it up tell him to stop.
Are you his only friend? |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:14 PM |
"moonlight the psychopath magnet i bet you'd be a good cop because all the serial killers come to you"
probably actually
i try to be a nice person so it probably seems like im easy to manipulate |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:15 PM |
"It's a trying time in a friendship."
boy oh boy it is
"Ask him if anything is wrong, and if he gets angry at you, let him cool down, change the subject."
sounds like a good idea to me
"The irritating part I don't know.. If he keeps it up tell him to stop."
ill definitely try
"Are you his only friend?"
he has other friends but for the most part they agree with me, including his ex who told me about the animal abuse thing
apparently he also complains about me tho |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:18 PM |
| If you can't confront him about anything, and if he gets abusive toward YOU, cut the friendship off and stay away from him. |
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Awkrin
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:19 PM |
I have a feeling this is a troll.
You should slowly cut him off, he sounds like you will read about him in the papers. If you are his only friend he might shoot up the school or something if you completely cut him off.
Try to get him to see help. By any means. |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:20 PM |
is he lonely by that i mean, does he only have a couple of actual friends? or did he miss his childhood by that i mean, did he have a really bad and tormented childhood
if no and no, then yeah, cut him off |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:25 PM |
thanks pharoah
"is he lonely by that i mean, does he only have a couple of actual friends? or did he miss his childhood by that i mean, did he have a really bad and tormented childhood
if no and no, then yeah, cut him off"
yes and no?? yes as in hes lonely but thats more cause he constantly has to be in some form of romantic relations or have a crush on someone, no in that he has plenty of real friends
and yes and no again, i think he misses a little bit of his childhood and lost a lot of it because like 3-4 years ago his mom died, but the childhood part i really have no idea about |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:30 PM |
| Why didn't you talk about my advice? |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:31 PM |
"I have a feeling this is a troll."
nope, i am some sort of magnet for violent people
at least this friend hasnt tried to kill me (yet)
"You should slowly cut him off, he sounds like you will read about him in the papers. If you are his only friend he might shoot up the school or something if you completely cut him off."
i dont think he would shoot up the school, worse case scenario id probably have to physically defend myself from him
"Try to get him to see help. By any means."
will do |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:31 PM |
| sorry, awk, i didnt see it before!! |
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| 11 Dec 2014 10:33 PM |
| Dude, this is giving me warning signs. Has he had history or is currently substance abusing (ie. drugs, alchohol, etc.)? If he has, disconnect in the easiest way possible, as well as tell a counseler about him. If not, still disconnect. This could turn into a dangerous relationship really fast. |
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