Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:35 PM |
So, a lot of you are saying how you are in love with someone that you met and want to ask out. Let me clarify something for you:
What you are feeling is not love. It's called an infatuation. For those of you who don't know what that means here is a definition "an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something."
The majority of you aren't in high school yet, and you are too young to truly understand love. Don't take offense at that, it's true. It was true for me. It is hard to say when you will know what true love is, and I can't quite describe it to you. What I can say is that you probably won't have it until you are at least 17. |
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Typocrite
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:36 PM |
| Most of us aren't even really infatuated. We just like the look of some other person's body if we're honest with ourselves. |
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sba2004
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:36 PM |
I'm here to forum, not to get information
-BOND WITH ME JIMMY- |
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MrPhelps
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:37 PM |
*takes notes*
You must be a love professor, zipo
tell us moar of ur (in)finite wisdom
~The OT Snowman~ |
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SolarityX
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Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:40 PM |
| I'm just someone with a few more years of life experience. I can't really tell if you are being serious, though. |
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:40 PM |
| I know that I am/was in love. Lol |
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:46 PM |
| But you see OP, infatuation is as close to love that any of us will get in our lifetime, period. That is what you're forgetting, most of the people in this forum are using infatuation as a catalyst to get to real love, without infatuation we will never really love anyone. |
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| 07 Jan 2014 08:48 PM |
| what if you think the persons ugly but still like them e_e? |
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Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 09:01 PM |
@Green, I disagree with you there. @Epic, Then you are emotionally attracted to them, no physically. In my opinion, I wouldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to. It may sound shallow, but the passion just wouldn't be there. Maybe I'll be proven wrong in my future, but for now that is my stance. |
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| 07 Jan 2014 10:48 PM |
@Zipo
Disagree with me all you like, the people who describe these infatuations are people who are forced to use them as a gateway/stepping stone into love.
I'm not saying everyone, I'm just saying people who form infatuations won't get love without them, period. |
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| 07 Jan 2014 10:55 PM |
| Lol at OP, thinking he is superior because he is "Truly" in love while the rest of us are only "infatuated" |
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Dudicrox
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| 07 Jan 2014 10:55 PM |
ʙɪᴛᴄʜ I ᴀᴍ ɪɴ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ᴡɪᴛʜ...
YO MOM |
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Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 10:58 PM |
@Riley, Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you love them. I'm not saying that you don't--I have no idea--just that it takes a while to accumulate. @Green, I think the only thing that I disagree with you on is how you said that an infatuation "is as close to love that any of us will get in our lifetime, period." People can achieve, and most likely will achieve love later in their lives. @Kiwi, I don't think I'm superior, nor have I experienced love. When I was younger I thought I did, but it was too one sided and left me bitter. The closest thing to love that I have is compassion for my friends and my hope for their well being in all things. |
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:04 PM |
@Zipo
my bad - from the original post you sort of implied you have been in love, but i was just jumping to conclusions |
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Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:05 PM |
| That's fine Kiwi, no hard feelings. |
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MEGATR00N
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:10 PM |
I'm in high school. Too many social issues to find love, also I'm too busy. It would be nice to have someone that I could tell them that I love them.
When you're older and you truly have feelings for someone, it's an indescribable feeling that will bury you six feet underground if it ever ends. |
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cheated
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:12 PM |
When you reach to a point with a mature relationship and you are reliant on your partner, stakes rise high. Mistakes are exponentially felt, words become as hurt full as physical throws, leaving becomes an entrance to doorway. Let's face it, relationships are temporary and when you put your happiness on something that might leave the next day, your happiness will leave along with it.
I wish I knew this earlier; I really god damn do. |
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MEGATR00N
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:13 PM |
@cheated
Yeah, let's cry together. |
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Akrylix
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:14 PM |
| This is a nice peace of information. |
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cheated
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:14 PM |
| *becomes an entrance to depression |
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:19 PM |
| Younger kids never experience true love? So here is some holes. Your basically saying a 7 year old doesn't truly love their mother. Which is pretty brash. I do think you are wrong. I mean a kid who lived in a middle eastern hot zone of war and was saved by a woman/man and was taken in by them for 5 months (tops) wouldn't feel true love? Just infatuated? You do not understand the feelings of atleast 2-3 billion children in this world. I like a girl right now and I have liked her for 8 years now. I would say I love her. I have thought of giving my life up to her..But apparently it is "infatuated" you may just offended many below 14 year olds right now. You have alot of holes in what you're saying. I completely disagree. Yes, the 8 year olds on OT saying "yea I dated this girl for like a month we broke up and shes like mad at me wtf ot halp me lol" is infatuated but love relationships that I am very sure that under 14 year olds experience is true and wholesome. I am going to say you didn't do much thinking before you wrote. |
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johnb
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Zipo99
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| 07 Jan 2014 11:30 PM |
| @Happy, There is a difference that I would like to point out. This difference is that you feel a different love for your mother than you do for the girl you like. You don't feel physically attracted to your mother (unless you are Freud) and you don't feel the same kind of emotional attraction as you do with people outside your own family. I love my brother, yet I am not physically or emotionally attracted to him. We are comrades, who have a mutual trust in each other. It was fully my mistake for not differentiating between different types of love in what I wrote. I do, however, believe that you understood the point that I was trying to get across. Thank you for pointing out my mistake, and I apologize if you felt that I was completely disregarding that viewpoint. |
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